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Take a Penny, Leave a Penny!

Close to three years ago, karnythia hosted an LJ post where she asked people to leave a comment if they had something they wanted or needed, or if they had something they were willing to give or offer.

I got two things: yarn and friends.

This is how I met rosefox, who has since become one of the people in my life whom I value most.

So I've been thinking a lot lately about that and what a big impact it had on my life over the past three years. And it made me want to do it for other people.

Quoting karnythia's post from all those years ago:

What do you want?
What do you need?
What do you have?

Feel free to answer any or all of them. They do not need to be realistic things (I put world peace on mine last time) If you don't have a LiveJournal, or would prefer to answer anonymously, give us a way to contact you.

Feel free to share this on LJ, DW, and other social media if you like.

Note: I'm in metro Boston, work (which I LOVE) and daughter's school are in Newton, home and son's school are in Medford. I have a 35-75 minute driving commute depending on traffic.

Time - to play with my kids, go out with friends, cuddle my husband, take my children on play dates, go out with my husband, help our housemate with her financial paperwork, do our own financial paperwork, process the zillionty photographs waiting patiently on my computer.

Clothes for my kids, size 6 and up for rough-and-tumble girly-girl who doesn't like stiff fabric, size 6 and up for skinny boy (size 6 pants are too short and size 7 pants fall off... he SHOULD be wearing size 8...)
Voice acting work for my husband
Other work for my husband that still allows him to keep "mother's hours" and doesn't drain him and supplements our income sufficiently that it doesn't matter if we become ineligible for MassHealth supplements to our health insurance
To move closer to work without sacrificing the benefits of a small school system for our special-needs child (3rd-grade boy, PDD-NOS, doesn't present as disabled until he really REALLY does)
To exercise more (this would be aided by the above... also, this should be more possible given that I have free access to an indoor track and indoor pool, but there's the time issue)
To get my body less achy and weight redistributed in more comfortable ways (low impact exercise has always helped this)
To have lots of healthy food in the house that I can grab when hungry (as opposed to bread and cheese)
Suggestions for how to get more healthy rest, both for early-bird me and for late-night husband who nevertheless has to get a late-night boy on an 8:00 bus during the school year
People who can hang out with me during hours I'm actually awake (before 8pm - as late as 10pm if you can get me all the way home) who energize me rather than drain me.
Friends for my kindergarten daughter who are GOOD role models
Extremely responsible adult or teenage friends for my kids who like being climbed on and know how to model behavior, preferably who love to teach their skills to extremely intelligent children who will follow you anywhere when they decide they like you and have variable focus attention issues (kinda like their parents)
Above friends would be particularly wonderful as friends for me and husband too!
Help Throwing Things Away and organizing (I know someone who's extraordinary at this, but it's her job, I have to pay her, and I have no money!)
Help persuading husband to go through his Scary Piles of Crap to organize them and throw things away
Business casual clothes size 18W

wow, that list got too long, I'll stop there...

Two plastic toddler tricycles
A queen-sized box spring (intended to go with a memory foam mattress, so it has a solid top)
A listening ear, particularly through email and text (time issues...) but can do phone and specific times
Can help doing NY Times crosswords :)
Lots of contacts in the Boston MA special-needs services community, especially the Jewish community
A broad-ranging variety of interests
A good camera and willingness to use it :)
Stamina for taking long hikes in company

Edited at 2013-08-03 01:32 pm (UTC)

Wile we have time this week we should talk more about food and how I can help you have food you can eat.

What kind of voice acting work does your husband do? I have a couple radio plays in the kiln, and am on the lookout for male voices who can act well.

He does everything! :)

One of our local community theatre groups, the Post-Meridian Radio Players, specifically does radio plays with live Foley, usually at one of our local churches. For the Halloween show, the director apologetically gave him ensemble rather than a major role because of "vocal versatility." I can send you his demo reel.

Hi. I do a lot--everything from relaxed narration to high-energy kinetic, with a variety of accents available and a good ear for picking up an accent as needed. I take direction well. My base default is baritone, but I can handle a fair bit of the bass range and most of second tenor--yes, I sing too.

My amateur work started over a decade ago; my professional work started last year, though it is not at a full salary range yet. I still do the amateur work because it's fun.

Excellent, thank you! It won't be just yet, but maybe we can trade contact info or something? A direct message perhaps?

What do you want?

The ability to buy healthy groceries on a regular basis

Health insurance

Friends locally who enjoy leaving their houses (ETA: I'm in Austin, TX), or friends online who are on Gchat/AIM with regularity

What do you need?

A new job, preferably with benefits and in the criminal justice/intelligence/law field

More sleep

Somewhere I can afford to live locally starting in December

What do you have?

Unlimited texting
A variety of set lists, tickets, CD booklets etc signed by members of various bands, mostly pop-punk type/bandom groups
Lots of DC comics and all kinds of books I'm willing to loan/rec
Pretty darn good editing/writing/concrit skills (BA in English plus a couple years administrative and teaching/essay-grading experience)
Related to above, I can tutor in English/lit./writing/sociology/criminal justice/child development

Edited at 2013-08-03 07:00 pm (UTC)

I want:
a clearer idea of what will happen to me, socially and career-wise, when I graduate college in less than a year.
more colors of nail polish and hair dye.
more earrings, especially large, flashy ones. (I recently repierced my ears, so I am rebuilding an earring collection.)
better work habits, especially for independent projects like the thesis I am writing in the next year.
comics! clothes! (these things are very much in the "more of these is always gravy", they are definitely in the "want" camp though)

I need:
better back health. I know this probably entails buying a better chair and doing exercises to interrupt hours of sitting in a chair at the computer. Tips would be appreciated.
to eat more regularly. Too many days recently I've noticed that I only ate one real meal.
to figure out how to make a budget. I've never done this and it is very scary.
low-cost mental health resources in NYC (for a friend, I'm in the Boston area, but hey, this seems like a good place to ask)

I have:
pretty good general health and a reasonable amount of free time right now
some contacts in Boston/Cambridge-area geek communities
a reasonably good alto singing voice
really lovely family and boyfriend and close friends
okay cooking skills and good baking skills
lots of webcomics I can recommend to people - wonderful comics you can read for free!

I bet I'll think of more things to put in these categories.

I can probably help with some of the above, let's talk :) I'm also in some of the Boston-local geek communities, we may well know people in common.

Edited at 2013-08-03 09:56 pm (UTC)

Low cost mental health for someone with or without insurance? Let me know, I can ask my psych if she has any suggestions.

better back health. I know this probably entails buying a better chair and doing exercises to interrupt hours of sitting in a chair at the computer. Tips would be appreciated.

I recommend using the Pomodoro Method: set a timer, work for 25 minutes, get up and walk around for 5 minutes (go to the bathroom, make tea, whatever), repeat. After four rounds, take a break for half an hour. You can also use a browser extension like Leechblock to only let you use particular sites for m minutes every h hours.

to figure out how to make a budget. I've never done this and it is very scary.

I'd be glad to help you with this. It's actually really easy once you sit down and do it. Just remember that you're not ruled by the budget; your first one will always involve estimations of things like how much you spend on groceries every month, and once you work with that budget for a month or two, you'll know how much you need to revise it to reflect reality.

If you're comfortable with basic spreadsheets, some of these templates might be useful. They'll at least give you a sense of a) what people put on their budgets and b) how different budgets can be.

What do you want?

Encouragement and accountability in the production of writing by people who genuinely care about original creative output and share my broad love of art and learning. While I write primarily speculative fiction these days, the swath of creativity that moves me is wide and varied. Lately I've been reading Murakami alongside Gaiman; taking in classical opera and new theatre works alongside My Little Pony; listening to Paganini violin concertos alongside Kanye West and How To Dress Well. (Hell, if you got through that and don't think I'm an insufferable snob, hit me up).

But really, I'd love people with whom I could trade creativity. Primarily writing, and online is fine. One or two friends are good, though a community would be even better. I've always dreamed of being part of an artistic/writing community, and the closest I've ever come was in fandom. Which was great, but not really what I want right now. I am on LJ/DW though like almost everyone else I don't post all that much anymore. Also on a handful the usual suspect social networking sites, tumblr, twitter, facebook, though am not super active on any of them. That could very well be changed, though I am most likely to be engaged via chat/email.

What do you need?

So much and so little at the same time, as always! A less diseased heart and a better healthcare system is always hovering near the top of the list.

What do you have?

In short -- if our aesthetics mesh and we trust one another, I'd love to help you with your creativity in whatever way I can. I'm probably of most use in writing. I was a professional, high-volume grant writer until I realized that writing for a paycheck made me hate words, so I am decent at editing. However, I am slightly better at (and much prefer) conceptual rather than technical editing. I lovelovelove to talk idea and technique. I'm also a good-enough-for-professional-pay graphic designer, and an okay drawer. Finally, I'm a ravenous consumer of good music and bad movies -- occasionally vice versa. So I have relatively informed opinions and am even eager to collaborate with a good partner, if desired.

Edited at 2013-08-04 08:33 am (UTC)

Some general resources for a few folks with similar wants/needs:

Recipes: vegancooking, Cook's Illustrated, my food.recipes tag

Writing company/crits/encouragement for speculative fiction writers: http://sff.onlinewritingworkshop.com

Edited at 2013-08-05 04:57 pm (UTC)

What do you want?

--New York-local people to date.
I'm 35, single, bisexual probably around a Kinsey 2-2.5ish, need to date feminists. Ideally looking for (a) potential long-term domestic partner(s) who wouldn't be averse to raising a child (foster or biological) but I'm open to silly!fun relationships, too, although not anything exclusively sexual. (I mean "fun" in the sense of blowing bubbles, not "adult fun"). Pretty much my only superficial physical turnoff is extremes on either end of the weight spectrum.

--New York-local friends.

--New activities to do with people I love that don't cost a lot of money.

--A vacation to somewhere awesome.


What do you need?

--Help figuring out how to balance my extreme extroversion with the cost of going out in New York.

--Help packing.

--A better year.

What do you have?

--LOADS of clothing in size 4-8, loads of YA books, loads of kitchenware. I wish I could mail it to people but I don't have the time to mail it just now.

--A good sympathetic ear.

--Company from someone who is desperate to be around people 24/7