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Take a Penny, Leave a Penny!

Close to three years ago, karnythia hosted an LJ post where she asked people to leave a comment if they had something they wanted or needed, or if they had something they were willing to give or offer.

I got two things: yarn and friends.

This is how I met rosefox, who has since become one of the people in my life whom I value most.

So I've been thinking a lot lately about that and what a big impact it had on my life over the past three years. And it made me want to do it for other people.

Quoting karnythia's post from all those years ago:

What do you want?
What do you need?
What do you have?

Feel free to answer any or all of them. They do not need to be realistic things (I put world peace on mine last time) If you don't have a LiveJournal, or would prefer to answer anonymously, give us a way to contact you.

Feel free to share this on LJ, DW, and other social media if you like.

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What do you want?

I'm looking for a synagogue I can join. I'm about to move to Brooklyn. I think Reform is more likely to be the right level of observance for me, as long as we're not talking about the "let's sing a zillion random songs that have nothing to do with the service and then talk about our feelings" kind of Reform. Sometimes Conservative works for me, if it is egalitarian and people aren't going to yell at me if I do not know every little tradition. Above all, I just want somewhere I can go to services every so often, that is feminist-friendly and LGBT-friendly, and that is welcoming to introverts like me who are super intimidated by cliques.

Recipes have come up a lot, so I'm interested in some recommendations on that end. I'd like some ideas for recipes I can prepare quickly after work. In my home cooking, I'm a vegetarian. I'm lactose-intolerant, but I don't want to admit it. I think tofu is an awesome food, and I am always looking for new things to cook with it.

Music recommendations would be awesome. My favorite bands right now are Florence + The Machine, Marina and the Diamonds, and the Decemberists. I'm also a big fan of instrumental music, particularly movie scores. If there's ever a movie of my life, it won't be complete without a Thomas Newman score. I have a thing for pianos. I like the kind of music that will take me to a magical place. Either that, or have an awesome beat I can get caught up in. Bonus points for both.

What do you need?

Resources for my coming out journey. After a lot of repression, followed by concern that I was just a straight girl faking attraction to women, I've finally come out as bi. I'm not sure if that's quite right, but it may be as close as I'm going to get. Now I'm trying to get a better handle on what that means for me, while still being scared that the proverbial random guy in sunglasses who yells "SHE DOESN'T EVEN GO HERE" is right. To that end, I'm interested in NYC-area communities, people who I can talk to (inevitably, awkwardly), and reading material (book or blog).

Ideas for things to do with friends (or a potential girlfriend/boyfriend) that go beyond watching TV at my apartment or going to bars/restaurants. Those things are fun, but when I don't do very much else with friends or dates, I feel super boring. Bonus points if these are relatively cheap activities, as I will be working at a nonprofit.

What do you have?

I think that I make a decent writing buddy. I can help people bounce and refine ideas, help people stay motivated (while getting some motivation for my own writing), and help critique.

Some books that I think would be happier living with and being read by people who are not me. If you're interested, I can e-mail the list.

An excess of furniture.

An excess of electrical cords. Do they go with anything? Why do I own them?

I probably have some sort of talent that I'm overlooking.

I put out the synagogue question to my Facebook friends. I've got some NYC Jewish folks on there who might have some ideas.

And, my friend Sam suggested Union Temple, which is a Reform Temple just off Grand Army Plaza in Brooklyn (really close to where I used to live). I've heard it's a nice place, and they have a female rabbi. If you want to know more info, you can probably message her (check out my FB post).

Edited at 2013-08-03 03:49 am (UTC)

I had a look at their website, and it looks like a good place. Thank you for asking around!

Yeah, you're welcome!

From what I heard, they have at least one interracial lesbian couple who goes there. And, the only reason my friends don't go there anymore is sheer laziness--I think they really liked it, but they moved and don't feel like traveling there anymore.

Also, since you're moving to NYC, I think you should befriend regyt. She's the bestest.

My aunt and uncle, yeeeeears ago, used to go to the park slope Jewish center. It's conservative, not reform, but it's brooklyn and I had a decent vibe from them. Definitely egalitarian. I remember a Purim shpiel 20+ years ago where my uncle played Ester, in my mom's clothes. I can't imagine either my aunt or uncle putting up with anything less than strict egalitarianism. Also, it's park slope, aka dyke slope. I would think it should be queer friendly.

As to coming out... I can't think of any resources offhand, mostly because I've been so immersed in queer culture for so long that the whole coming out thing is 15+ years ago for me... but honey, like who you want to like and fuck who you want to fuck and to hell with cat callers who don't know jack shit. If the label feels right, use it. If it doesn't, don't. Sexuality is fluid and changes over time. I knew a girl who was pretty straight most of the time but would be attracted to women consistently when she was ovulating and not the rest of the month. You're okay however and whoever and whenever you love. (Sorry, tripped and fell onto a soapbox there for a minute...)

I can help with coming out resources and activities once you move here, and introduce you to other people who can do those.

Also, we can have apartment writing dates!

I'm another bisexual woman who worries about getting told I don't count. But, we do. *bisexual fist-bump*

Writing buddy! Feel free to peek down to my post (a few down from you) and see if you're interested in the type of buddying I might offer. :)

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